Where is the limit of sharing your private life, your personal news and your goals with others? Does that sharing damage you and if it does, then how much? Does any one of you believe that sharing with a wrong people may destroy your dream, or plan realization? Or sharing with disbelievers will stop you from acting toward your plan, idea or dream?
I wonder, because as of my notice, things really go smoothly if you keep it to yourself till the final stage of your plan delivery or share it only with a “proven” people. Why it is like that? Because of human being nature or because we became more competitive with each other as never before?
Looks like while fighting for our future, our careers, personal realizations, our children realizations and so on we keep forgetting to be happy for each other. That’s pity, because I think we could achieve more and more by supporting each other, by eliminating competition in our friends circle. Therefore, giving valuable advises, sharing info pieces that might be helpful, encouragements to each other may help someone to start moving toward their dreams and wishes creating a friendship bond between you.
Being indeed happy for someone’s great results is an awesome healthy habit. Will it be knitted adorable sock, delicious cake, career accomplishment or smart kid, whatever. Let’s extract smiles and supportiveness from our self as it all returns back. Good and positive vibes return same as negative ones. I personally prefer to stick with positive stuff yesterday, now and forever after.
I wrote all mentioned above long ago and today decided to publish it in my blog. But prior to that I did some online browsing and look what I found.
Below are thoughts from renowned personalities in a personal growth area found on this topic:
Derek Sivers, an entrepreneur fascinated with the usable psychology of self-improvement, business, philosophy, and culture.
Derek is a strong believer that people who talk about their intentions are less likely to make them happen. Announcing your plans to others satisfies your self-identity just enough that you’re less motivated to do the hard work needed.
“Shut Up! Announcing your plans makes you less motivated to accomplish them” ~ Derek Sivers
Peter Shallard, a renowned business psychology expert and therapist. He works with all types of entrepreneurs around the globe as these people strive to reach greater goals of wealth, freedom and social impact.
Derek states that telling your goals is a fatal mistake.
Because, when you tell someone about your next big idea, the mental process of visualizing future success convinces your unconscious mind that it’s already happened. It doesn’t fill your body with pre-victory anxiety… It fills it with post-win celebration!
Telling someone about your big idea is almost as emotional rewarding as achieving it!
Michael Hyatt, the productivity guru, author of Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World, a New York Times, USA Today, and Wall Street Journal Bestseller states that success needs a team!
“We have a very powerful myth in our culture—the myth of the self-made man. I’ve got news for you. There’s no such thing.” ~ Michael Hyatt
Success requires help, usually lots of it.
There are two kinds of relationships that we need to develop to help us persist in the face of adversity:
Mentors. Everyone needs a guide, preferably many. These are people with experience and maturity who can counsel, inspire, and challenge us.
These relationships can be personal or virtual. They can even been literary through biographies, histories, and great novels.
Peers. We also need a circle of co-travelers, people who are at our level struggling with their own goals.
Facing the world with friends and colleagues gives us confidence. It also provides us insights and solutions we wouldn’t have considered on our own.” Meaning that sharing with the “right people” and people in the “same boat” is actually beneficent.
There is a great article written by Matt McWilliams: Why I’m Not Sharing My 2016 Goals This Year (Except With Only a Few People Who REALLY Matter). It explains the main reasons why we do share our goals with others as well as why sharing our goals Hurts Our Chances of Achieving Them.
What do you, my precious readers, think about sharing or not your goals with others? Is there a way to change people’s attitude and reaction to your successes? Or maybe we should just remove that kind of people from our friend list and try to surround ourselves with happy, positive and non-envious people to share your life with? Or we should just strictly keep it to ourselves and maybe share our goals and plans with a family members only?
Thank you in advance for your personal opinions on that matter. Hopefully at the end of our discussion we will be able to summarize your comments and gain more opinions on this matter.
Have a wonderful day and amazing peers to share your goals with!
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